This Week’s Tweets: 2012-04-07

  • date night walk #
  • "The joke's on you, April," Chuck Norris said. #
  • maya's 1!!!!!!! #
  • The hubby doesn't know who Marcel Marceau was so my "talking Marcel Marceau" joke was even less funny. #figures #
  • may be a sunny day! #
  • I don't mean it. I mean it. I don't. #
  • It's a good thing for my children that my inability to keep houseplants alive . . . you see where this is going. #
  • bad moon rising #
  • Remember, you should check your fire alarm once a year. This coincides with the one time of year that I, as my husband describes it, "cook." #
  • Schmidt could be the poster child for "Things White People Say." #godlovehim #newgirl #
  • g'nite! #
  • g'nite! #
  • Young girls that insist on referring to a cowl as a "circle scarf" are forever off limits to Nick. #newgirl #
  • There are only two main ingredients to Candy Corn: Sugar and Corn Syrup. So,see. Corn. #
  • afternoon walk #

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One Response to “This Week’s Tweets: 2012-04-07”

  1. Tatyana Says:

    I don’t mean that men don’t have to sacrifice anytnihg at all for the sake of their families. It’s certainly true that marriage has changed dramatically, especially in terms of people’s expectations of what each partner’s responsibility should be — both w.r.t. earning and housework/child rearing, there’s a strong sentiment that it’s both partners’ job. I applaud this change.However, social expectations placed on each parent are still not totally equal. The situation Brad Bird describes — we had kids, and wanted full-time parental care for them, so she should quit her job (without seriously considering the alternate possibility) — is still the default in our society. A woman who achieves career success by devoting herself 110% to her work (and puts her kids in day-care) is going to have blame and shame heaped on her for any problems the kids may have — whereas a man won’t be blamed and shamed in the same way.As a result, women are expected to divide their energy and passion between career and child-rearing. However you parse yourself, you end up with some regrets. That makes people defensive (eg. SAHM’s and career women lashing out at each other so that each can bolster her own sense that her own choices were the “right” choices when instead we might be joining hands and recognizing that we moms all have a difficult juggling act, and it’s OK for different choices to be right for different women).OTOH, even in our modern society, a man can reasonably expect to find a woman who will stand behind him (so to speak) and work for his success. The man who’s willing to go on the “mommy track” so his wife can get ahead in her career is far more rare. Thus, it’s not so hard for a man to have both a brilliant career and a perfect family. Just look at Brad Bird or at, say, your own husband.Again, I’m not saying that men are evil, I’m just saying that it’s often difficult for people to empathize with difficult dilemmas that are different than what they themselves have had to face.

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